Scared to Travel Alone? Here's How to Overcome Your Fear

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Are you scared to travel alone? You are right in there with millions of other people. Almost everyone was afraid to travel alone their first time, and most of us feel at least a little bit anxious every time we set out on a trip. This post will provide you with some ways to overcome your solo travel anxiety so you can have the adventures you dream of.

I recently spent a week exploring New York City by myself, and it was a fantastic experience!

I started with a flight from Costa Rica to Miami, then took an overnight train straight into New York.

Skyscrapers near Hudson Yards in New York City I set out from my hotel in Midtown each day, wandered around Manhattan, enjoyed some great meals in delis and restaurants, and used the subway whenever my feet needed a break.

While wandering around, I remembered my first trip to New York by myself. I was afraid to talk to anyone on the street and retreated to my hotel as soon as it even thought about getting dark. And the subway? Hell no! I figured I’d be murdered.

So, what changed? A bit of experience and some useful know-how.

I’ve traveled solo enough now to feel comfortable in a city like New York. Each trip has taught me how to stay safe and enjoy my own company.

If I can go from feeling anxious to being confident, you can too.

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Why Travel Alone?

Traveling alone can be one of the most liberating and rewarding experiences ever. Here's why going solo might just be the best choice for your next adventure:

You don’t need a travel partner

Traveling solo means you don't have to wait for anyone else's schedule to align with yours. You can head out for adventure whenever the travel bug bites.

You’re in charge

When you travel alone, you're in the driver's seat—literally and figuratively.

Want to spend an entire afternoon exploring with your camera or maybe just lounging at a café people-watching? Go for it.

Woman solo traveler with camera.

Fancy a spontaneous trip to a nearby town because you heard about a quirky festival? Nothing's stopping you.

Your itinerary is all yours, and you can change it on a whim so every moment is exactly what you want it to be.

Learn more about yourself

Spending time with yourself in a new environment can be incredibly eye-opening. Without the influences of a travel buddy you can learn more about what you truly enjoy and maybe even discover some new interests.

Solo travel is a great way to reconnect with yourself and deepen your understanding of who you are.

Boost your confidence

Facing your biggest fears and tackling challenges in unfamiliar places can significantly boost your confidence.

Whether it's navigating public transport in a foreign city or simply striking up a conversation with a local, every little victory builds your self-confidence.

Learning you can handle things on your own in unfamiliar circumstances will spill over into other areas of your life, and you'll feel stronger and more confident after you've returned home.

Form new friendships

Traveling alone doesn't mean you'll be lonely. In fact, other solo travelers will often reach out if you're approachable and open to making new friends on the road.

Taking a trip by yourself isn’t just about seeing new places—it's also about your journey within. And it's a relatively risk-free way to discover the world on your own terms.

How to Become a Confident Solo Traveler

Here are some tips to overcome your fear of traveling alone.

Identify Your Fears About Traveling Alone

Let's face it—traveling by yourself can be a bit daunting. Some of us have one big fear, others have several.

What's holding you back? Maybe it's the thought of loneliness, safety concerns, or the fear of facing the unknown. Whatever your reasons, acknowledging these fears is the first step toward overcoming them.

Start by keeping a travel journal. Over the next few weeks, visualize yourself exploring different destinations, and write down any fears that come up.

An orange travel journal tied closed.

Once you have your list, create a plan to tackle each fear. For example:

If you’re afraid you might be lonely, research activities that involve social interaction. Look for Meetup groups or sign up for a local cooking class. You might even find a yoga retreat or a group hiking tour that interests you and offers a chance to meet like-minded travelers.
Are you concerned about safety? Make a list of practical steps to take to safeguard yourself and your belongings. Familiarize yourself with safe neighborhoods, keep emergency contacts handy, and always let someone know your itinerary. Download apps that keep you connected and informed, like a local navigation tool or a safety app that shares your location with your friends and family.

Some anxiety about travel is good as it can keep you on your toes!

When you’re a little anxious, you’ll pay more attention to your surroundings so you won’t wander into the wrong neighborhood. You’ll remember to keep an eye on your belongings. You’ll hang onto the handrail on stairs so you don’t trip.

Personally, I love the blend of excitement and anxiety I feel when I step off the plane in a new place. It's an interesting mix of anticipation for the experiences to come and the challenge of adapting to the unexpected.

This experience of navigating the unknown, aided by the kindness of strangers and my own intuition, is what makes each journey unforgettable.

Through experience, I know that in a few days, the anxiety will be gone, but the excitement will remain.

Practice Traveling Alone in Small, Incremental Steps

To get over being scared about traveling alone, start small and take baby steps right at home. Think of it as a training ground for future adventures, where you can build confidence in familiar surroundings.

Travel solo in your own town

Start your first solo trip in your hometown.

Head to a movie or explore a museum on your own. Treat yourself to lunch or dinner at a local café you’ve never tried before.

Enjoy choosing exactly what you want to see, eat, or do without anyone else's input.

These outings are a great way to get comfortable with your own company.

Take an overnight excursion nearby

Once you're feeling comfortable exploring on your own, plan an overnight trip to a nearby town or city.

Breakfast table on a bed with a deck outside. Book a stay at a cozy bed-and-breakfast or a fun boutique hotel. Spend the day exploring tourist attractions and trying out local cuisine. Use public transportation to get around.

This is the best way to practice navigating new environments while still within an area you're familiar with.

Schedule some solo activities

Participate in classes or workshops that interest you like a painting class, yoga class, or cooking workshop.

These activities provide an opportunity to meet new people and help you get used to engaging with other people when you’re by yourself.

Reflect to build your confidence

As you go along, notice how your apprehension slowly starts feeling more like excitement and self-assurance and make notes in your journal. You can review them before your next trip and remember what it felt like to overcome your fears.

And really, what's the worst that can happen? You don't enjoy the experience, and you get in your car and drive home.

Each step you take as you practice traveling solo at home will build your confidence and prepare you for adventures further afield.

So go ahead, take that leap, and enjoy the journey to becoming a confident solo traveler!

Join a Group Tour or Take a Cruise

If the idea of traveling alone still feels overwhelming, joining a group trip or taking a cruise can be the perfect stepping stone to venturing out alone.

Traveling by yourself but on a tour or cruise offers the best of both worlds by providing the safety and structure of traveling with others while also allowing you to explore on your own terms.

Group tours

Older people on a guided tour. Group tours can be a great choice for your first time traveling solo.

Itineraries are already planned, you can either spend time alone or join the group, and there's someone in charge to make sure nothing goes wrong.

Companies like G Adventures, Road Scholar , and Intrepid Travel specialize in small group tours that cater to solo travelers who are 50+.

When you're looking for tours, be sure they don’t charge single supplements, meaning you don’t pay extra for traveling by yourself.

Cruises

Cruises are another great option if you’re hesitant to travel alone. They offer a safe and comfortable base with lots of activities, entertainment, and dining options to choose from.

Companies like Norwegian Cruise Line and Royal Caribbean, among others, often have special events and lounges for solo travelers, which makes it easy to connect with others who are traveling alone.

They also have staterooms specifically for people traveling solo, and there’s the option to either join others on a shore excursion or explore ports independently.

Address Your Safety Concerns

Of course, safety is a top priority when you're traveling alone. The thought of navigating unfamiliar places can be daunting. I know! I’ve felt it.

But with the right precautions, you can safely explore the world all by yourself.

Here are some common safety concerns you might have and practical tips to address them:

Personal safety

Staying alert and informed is important. If you’re heading out of the U.S., be sure to check with the U.S. State Department for a travel advisory on your destination and sign up for the Smart Traveler Enrollment Program.

Always trust your instincts—if something feels off, it probably is. Stick to well-lit, populated areas, especially after dark. Your hotel can let you know which areas are safe to explore.

Keep your phone charged and handy and consider carrying a personal safety device, like a whistle or pepper spray. Many solo travelers recommend the safety alarm by She’s Birdie.

Losing your belongings

The fear of losing important items like your passport or wallet can be stressful.

Keep your valuables secure by using a money belt or neck pouch tucked under your clothing and use the hotel safe.

Make copies of important documents and store them separately from the originals. And leave expensive items at home so you don’t attract attention.

Getting lost

Man on the street holding a phone with a map displayed. I know! It’s happened to me many times. Getting lost in a new place can be intimidating, but it can also be a chance to explore.

Carry a map or download offline maps on your phone to help you navigate. Just look at it in a private place so you don’t scream “vulnerable tourist.”

And don't hesitate to ask locals for help—they're often more than willing to assist.

Health concerns

Before you leave on your trip, check with the CDC and verify whether you need vaccinations or if there are any other health precautions specific to your destination. Also, make a note of the location of nearby hospitals or medical facilities.

And pack a basic first-aid kit and any necessary medications.

Scams and fraud

Protect yourself by thoroughly researching common scams where you're going and learning how to avoid them.

Use common sense! Never share personal information with strangers. Trustworthy accommodation and transport providers are critical, so book through reputable platforms. If something looks too good to be true, it usually is.

Communication barriers

Language differences can be a concern, but they're manageable.

Take a phrase book along or load a translation app on your phone before you leave. This will be a big help if you’re in a country where you don’t speak the language.

Carry a notepad so you can jot down important information or addresses in the local language. And always take a business card with the address of your hotel in the local language when you leave the hotel.

Remember, being prepared is key, and each obstacle you overcome will only add to your confidence.

But first . . .

Do Your Research

If you’re scared to travel alone, thorough research will be your best friend. The more informed you are, the more confident you'll feel.

Choose the right destination

Start by selecting a destination that aligns with your comfort level and addresses your concerns. For example, if you're worried about language barriers, start with an English-speaking country.

This way, you won’t have the added pressure of language hurdles. While destinations like China might be on your bucket list, starting with a place that feels more accessible will build your confidence for future solo trips.

Consider comfort and friendliness

Look into rankings for the world’s friendliest countries and choose a place where you'll be welcome. This can help mitigate fears and make your trip more enjoyable.

Don’t forget accessibility and travel logistics

Consider how easy it will be to reach your destination, and choose a location that fits your travel style and time frame.

For instance, a quick flight to a neighboring country like Canada or Mexico might be much less stressful than a long-haul journey across the globe to a time zone 10 hours away.

If you have a disability, google “Accessibility _____________” (fill in the name of the country) to learn more or join an accessibility travel group on Facebook.

If you have specific needs or concerns, like being part of the LGBTQ+ community, being a person of color, or being a religious person with specific needs, research destinations that are known for their inclusivity and support.

Community and support networks

Facebook has many groups tailored to solo travelers. They’re a great place to learn from others’ experiences and even find travel companions if that's what you want.

Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway

Every time I start out on a trip, I get a little nervous as I think of the unknowns that are ahead.

But rather than letting fear hold me back, I just choose to just embrace the fear and step out anyway.

Each trip is a new adventure and each time I venture out, I'm reminded of the incredible experiences that await if I’m willing to take a deep breath and move out of my comfort zone.

When you get anxious, focus on the excitement of exploring a new environment. Dive into the culture, taste the local flavors, and let curiosity lead you.

Remember that kind-hearted people are everywhere, ready to lend a hand if needed. Trust in your ability to adapt and thrive, no matter where you are. And if you need to retreat to your room to gather yourself together before venturing out again, that's just fine.

Facing your fears and pushing through them makes traveling by yourself so empowering. Each time you dive in, you grow stronger, more resilient, and more self-aware. It's a transformative experience that turns apprehension into confidence. Who doesn't want that?

Make a Plan

You've chosen your destination; now it's time to map out your adventure.

A well-thought-out plan can be your best friend. You want enough structure you can hit the ground running, but you don’t want to over book. Aim for a mix of planned activities and free time each day. This way, you're free to explore surprises along the way, or enjoy a leisurely afternoon at a café without pressure.

Avoid paying upfront for too many activities, so you have room for changes based on your mood.

Start with a tour

I always like starting with a guided tour. Whether it’s a hop-on/hop-off bus like I’ve done in New York and other cities, or joining a walking group learning about a historic neighborhood, tours can give you an overview of the area.

The top deck of a double-decker tourist bus.

They help you get your bearings and also offer insights into local culture and must-see spots you can return to later.

Viator and Get Your Guide are just two places you can check for guided tours.

Know how to get around

Learn about your transportation options before you go.

Will you rely on public transportation, rent a bike, or rent a car for day trips?

Research local transit apps and routes to get an overview of how things work and where you’ll go.

Prioritize relaxation

Be sure to include time to relax. Pounding the pavement every day is a sure recipe for a bad trip, especially if you're 50+! I find slow travel is much more enjoyable.

Organize a spa day, stroll through a park, take a book to the beach, or sleep in and treat yourself to brunch. Breaks like this are vital for recharging, and they give you time to reflect on your experience and your life.

Prepare for emergencies

I know! I doesn’t help the fear to think about what could go wrong. But having a plan for emergencies is crucial and also makes you feel more secure.

Know the location of the nearest embassy, hospital, and police stations. Have a list of emergency contacts.

And don’t forget travel insurance to cover potential mishaps. Remember, Medicare doesn’t cover care outside the U.S.

Remember, a great trip is a blend of preparation and openness to the serendipity of travel. Trust your plan, be flexible, and let the journey unfold in its special way.

Check In Along the Way

Remember that travel journal I mentioned earlier? It’s a powerful tool for capturing your experiences and tracking your personal growth, especially as it relates to your fear of traveling alone.

Here’s how to make the most of your reflections.

Document your journey

Earlier, you noted your initial fears and apprehensions.

As your trip unfolds, revisit those entries to see if your fears materialized and, more importantly, how you overcame them if they did.

This practice will boost your confidence and make your next solo trip that much easier.

Reevaluate daily plans

Each morning, take a moment to review your itinerary. Ask yourself, "What’s on tap for the day?" and "Do I really want to do that?"

It's okay if your interests shift once you're in a new location. Perhaps a museum visit you'd planned to visit doesn't excite you as much as the idea of exploring a local market or enjoying a morning in the local park.

And as you build confidence, there will probably be new new activities you want to try that just seemed too scary before.

Embrace serendipity

Some of the most memorable experiences come from unplanned moments. On my recent trip to New York, I had a complete schedule planned, but once I got there, I tossed most of it out.

Two mannequin's dressed up with jeweled clothes and headdresses.

The mannequins look like they had a hard night!

It was the spontaneous poking around in wholesale shops in the garment district on my way to lunch (Did you know there are giant shops devoted just to buttons or trim?) and the peaceful hours I spent people-watching on the High Line that left the biggest impression of this trip to the city.

Reflect and adjust

At the end of each day, reflect on what brought you joy and what you want to do differently. Did you enjoy the busy city streets, or were you more comfortable sitting peacefully in a quiet space?

By checking in with yourself regularly, you’ll turn your trip into a meaningful and comfortable experience instead of just a checklist of sights and activities.

Final Thoughts

It can be scary to travel alone. I'll admit that.

But it’s also an empowering adventure that provides endless possibilities for growth and discovery.

Doing thorough research, having a plan, and addressing safety concerns will help give you confidence to face your fears head-on.

Remember, every journey starts with a single step, and each experience, no matter how small, builds your confidence and makes those fears less scary.

Embrace the adventure with curiosity and courage, and know that you're not just exploring new destinations but also you're also uncovering new facets of yourself and growing as a person.

So, go forth and let the world be your guide—you’re ready for the adventure of a lifetime! 🎉🤩

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